Several months ago, my boyfriend got his tax return and it was like $1500 or so. When he told me how much it was, the only thing I told him was "Don't blow it." He asked me to elaborate and I said don't spend it all at once, save it. So what does he go and do? He buys a $700 flat screen TV, which I should point out, he already had a freaking TV. On top of that, he bough an Xbox 360 with kinect. I could see the Xbox, but there was NO reason to buy the TV. I bitched at him about this for like 2 weeks because he barely makes enough money to pay his bills as it stands, and having that extra money would have really helped him.
So now several months later, he is always freaking broke and he complains about it all the time. This wouldn't be so bad, but the other day, he sat me down and talked to me about why he started smoking again and he was all serious saying that it was because he hates his job and he is barely making ends meet, and so he needs a release. He also went on to tell me that he probably won't be able to make it to his dad's wedding because he can't afford the gas to drive 4 hours to Sedona. This pushed me over the edge, and now I have been fuming the past couple of days over his stupid financial decisions. If he hadn't blown his money on a TV he didn't need, then he probably wouldn't be in this situation.
I feel like I need to let this go, but at this point, I can't! I am just so angry about his situation and how he has royally screwed himself. How can I get it through his thick skull that he needs to be more responsible with his money? If he can't change this about himself then there is no future for us. I keep trying to help him, but he seems totally incapable of moderating his spending. What can I do?
btw, he blows his money on cigarettes and 20 oz cokes all the time, and I try to tell him this adds up but he doesn't freaking listen to me! As a result, he's buying cigarettes and cokes instead of buying groceries so he can actually eat a meal.